Love asks for openness. Money demands clarity. Most people are taught—explicitly or implicitly—that those two forces are in conflict. That if you talk about money too early, too honestly, or too structurally, you risk “ruining” the emotional connection. That protecting yourself financially means withholding trust. That intimacy requires surrender. None...
Most financial advice assumes life is stable. Stable income. Stable household. Stable filing status. Stable priorities. That assumption is wrong. Real life moves in seasons, transitions, and interruptions. People fall in love, fall apart, rebuild, change careers, take breaks, become parents, lose parents, and start over. And while life is fluid, the tax...
Marriage is not a financial cheat code. That’s important to say plainly, because too much personal-finance content swings between two extremes: either romanticizing marriage as an automatic wealth multiplier or dismissing it entirely as irrelevant to financial outcomes. Neither is true. Under the tax code, marriage can be a powerful accelerator; but...
Being single is not a financial flaw. That sentence alone needs to be said slowly, because so much of the frustration people feel around money doesn’t come from bad decisions; it comes from silently absorbing the idea that something is wrong with them for not fitting the default household model the system...
My Recent Intentional Mortgage Recast The goal wasn’t to make more money. The goal was to structure my life so it didn’t require money to hit my pocket — so more can stay pre-tax and compounding. Fit & Whealthy principle: If your lifestyle requires income to hit checking, taxes get...
Introduction Most people think the tax code is about money. It isn’t. Money is simply the unit of measurement. It is the ruler the system uses to quantify behavior, reward certain structures, and apply friction to others. The tax code itself is not primarily financial—it is social and structural. It encodes...
The Full Fit & Whealthy System Pre-Tax (Staging) + Invested Tax Savings (Taxable Buddy) + Harvesting + Conversion Harvesting + Margin Optionality Most people talk about pre-tax vs Roth like it’s a permanent fork in the road. Pick one. Commit forever. Hope your assumptions about income, life, markets, and tax...
Why I Keep Investing Simple, Focus on My Work, and Treat Wealth Like Physical Fitness My investment strategy is intentionally simple — not because I don’t understand complexity, but because I understand where complexity actually belongs. I buy VT — Vanguard Total World Stock ETF — and then I go to sleep. That...
Money is never just math. As financial therapist Aja Evans, author of ‘Feel Good Finance’ teaches, our relationship with money is shaped far more by emotion than by optimization. Every financial decision—how much we save, how we invest, how we react to surprises—is filtered through lived experience, nervous system responses, and...
When major downturns hit—real ones, not the everyday noise—I don’t panic. I don’t freeze. And I don’t pretend I can predict the exact bottom. I prepare for 30–40% market drawdowns, because history says they will happen. The question isn’t if—it’s how you react when they do. When pre-tax, tax-deferred accounts...
